my "go before you die" restaurant recommendation is lucques on melrose avenue in west hollywood. i once had day boat scallops there that altered the course of my life. they came still nestled in their shells, opaque and delicate, perched atop forbidden black rice, coconut curry, and barely cooked pea shoots. not only was it the most beautiful thing i'd ever tasted, something else was unmistakably present. i could taste that each ingredient had been cared for--from boat to farm to restaurant kitchen. love is rare to find in a meal, rarer still in one at a restaurant. you might say i have a bit of a thing for love. in my world there are two kinds: the love that happens to us and the love that we choose. the love that happens to us is alarming and profound. it is staring at my daughters sleeping and realizing, once again, that they are not me nor are they mine. they arrived as gifts in my life, and through them i've learned that my heart is infinitely capable of great things on a moment's notice.
then there is the love that we choose. sometimes the choice is easy.
the world calls out to us in different ways: "come love me!" and we run
to it, to adore, appreciate, and cultivate. i was built to
give a cluster of chioggia beets every ounce of my attention. my best
friend is the same way with shoes (stuart weitzmans specifically).
whatever it is, each of us has something to which we joyfully
surrender.
sometimes choosing love is harder, even awkward and unnatural. how do we love that which we've made a commitment to but don't perceive to bring us pleasure? i am trying to love cleaning my bunny's cage, flossing my teeth, practicing yoga and the regrets i have in my past. it starts with a credo: "i love you little teeth." the more i say it and do it, the more my heart turns itself over to the task. it is the most strange and wonderful phenomena. every circumstance, monotony, and dark corner of my life can transform into an epicenter of peace and pleasure. when we do things for the love of it, they become fun.